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MOTHER-IN-LAW PROBLEMS vs SOLUTIONS
GRANDMAMA
You'd think that your child
didn't own an ounce of your genes by the way that your Mother-in-law talks.
Furthermore, you find that Grandma is continually giving trinkets and toys to
her grandchild, spoiling him/her to no end!
And she is always at your
house these days, cooing over the new baby. Will you ever get any peace
and quiet again? Can't she see that you are worn out?
Your husband isn't any help
at all. He actually likes his Mother being there. It lends him a bit of comfort
knowing that Mother knows what to do should something happen with the baby.
And that hurts you because it's like he doesn't think you're a capable Mom.
You want so badly to prove yourself to your husband, and to his Mother.
But no one will give you a chance!
At this point, it's time to
ask Mother if she would mind babysitting. You may feel as though you can't
bear to leave your baby with someone else - Grandmother or not! However, TRY!
It's not good for the baby, and it's not good for you to be so tied down
to one another.
Arrange a time to drop off
junior/juniorette at Grandma's house. Or, ask Grandma to come to your
home to babysit. Give them a few hours alone. This will accomplish two
things.
One, you'll have time to get a breath of fresh air and put things into
prospective. Two, it will help satisfy Grandma's own needs that she must
fulfill as a new Grandmother. She really is a bit like you in this area.
Right now, you have feelings of Motherhood while she wrestles with feelings
of Grandmotherhood.
When you return, discuss her
day with your baby. This will help form a stronger relationship between
you and Mother. Keep in mind that you now have two reasons for forming a stronger
relationship: your husband, and your new baby.
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