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MOTHER-IN-LAW PROBLEMS vs SOLUTIONS
PREGNANCY &
MOTHER IN LAWS
You are pregnant
and Mother's not. That can be a terrible, tricky situation. Or, it can be a
wonderful situation - a time to finally win the old battle axe over to your
side.
At this
stage, you have so many things on your side. For one, Mother is very curious
to see what HER grandchild will look like, even though you already know that
the first words you'll hear her say are, "The baby looks just like my son."
And you know that she'll probably say that right in front of your Mother.
So, who
cares? Let her think what she wants to think. Until that time, you've
got a lot of cards you can play. Get Mother's opinion on the nursery.
Let her know your thoughts and your hopes of how you want it laid out.
Get her input. After all, she did a pretty good job of raising her
son, right? And best of all, she just may contribute to the nursery fund!
Whatever
you do, don't allow HIS Mother and YOUR Mother to lock horns and turn YOUR baby
into a game piece. There will be plenty of room in your child's life for both
grandmothers and their love. Everyone needs all the love they can get,
so work towards building a strong love and a strong bond between both grandmothers.
As your
child grows, if they see/hear you talking about their grandmother, it's not
going to win brownie points for you. If you show a kind heart towards
your Mother-in-law, your child will glow with respect for you in that area.
It is one thing that you really can control!
When the
baby is born, you may find it difficult to allow your Mother-in-law to hold
the baby.
After all, she's been quite brutal to you - and has said so many unkind
words to you. At this point, be the better woman and bury the hatchet DEEP,
and in the dirt - not in Mother's back.
She's not going to do anything
to harm your little one. After all, it is indeed a part of her.
The
better part....
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